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Porn - Yes or No?

Pierced tongue licking red-colored ice creamWhile many men admit to watching and enjoying porn on several well known sex sites and don't associate any negative connotations to doing so, some women do still feel that porn is a form of cheating (as if men meet and fuck someone this way), disrespects and objectifies women and is an absolute no-no, both for themselves and for their men. But there is another side to this coin, with many women becoming more comfortable with the idea, openly admitting to watching it, either alone or with their partners and even expressing the opinion that their sex lives are much improved due to the addition of good quality pornographic material, avoiding possible flings in their relationship at a time.

Whether you love it or love to hate it is really a matter of personal taste and nobody can force you to indulge. However, for those couples who have chosen to embrace porn in all its naked, slippery glory, we think there is something to be said for the positive impact of erotic materials on the sexual psyche. Some psychologists believe that demystifying porn may actually have a positive impact on society. If people are allowed to accept and embrace their sexual urges, whether this be bisexuality, desire for group sex, gender crossover, female dominance, the excitement of sex in public and more, it would go a long way towards the formation of a sexually healthy society. A sex-aware and comfortable society is also a healthy society, some would say, and less likely to engage in cheating as well.

Porn is a... (GOOD) Thing?

While porn addiction has received a lot of press and is widely regarded as a negative and obsessional act linked to low self esteem and anxiety disorders, there are many couples who choose to watch porn without guilt or any sense of dysfunction. Adult movies or porn films can form part of a healthy sexual relationships as long as both couples enjoy and are comfortable with the choice. While porn has long been seen as the domain of men only, the sheer volume of sexually oriented websites aimed at and based around the needs of women indicates that porn films and videos online are no longer the exclusive domain of men. These days both men and women openly admit to making use of porn as a sex aid and although many do still keep it on the down low, the website statistics of members and users makes it very obvious that pornographic material is very well utilized both online and in adult stores. Many people also make use of online and mail order catalogs to have material send directly to their homes.

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The Benefits of Watching Porn

While the sexually exciting nature of pornography can make it easier to reach an orgasm, whether with your partner or solo, there are deeper advantages than just the culmination of the sex act, while this is, certainly, a good enough reason on its own! (We think).Many couples report that watching pornographic material improved and deepened their sexual experiences with each other and during self-pleasuring. One beneficial aspect cited was that the pornographic material deepened their understanding of how exciting and innovative the sex act could be, and incorporated some or all of what they saw on screen into their own sexual exploration. Many admitted that there sex lives had been somewhat dull by comparison and that pornographic images gave them the encouragement they needed to be sexually explicit with their partners and to try new things during masturbation.

Couples can increase their levels of comfort with their partners and with their own bodies, by becoming comfortable with erotic images. Many women report that they feel more sexy, achieve a higher state of arousal and better orgasms if they indulge in intercourse, after viewing porn. This is also true of using sexually explicit films and videos during masturbation. Porn can help both men and women achieve a higher state of arousal, less inhibition and a more varied sex life than without it. It can make individuals feel more comfortable with oral sex, sex toys, anal sex, threesomes or the shared experience can heighten their intimacy level. Whether a couple chooses to use porn often, less frequently or keep it for the rare occasion, is all up to them, but there is no doubt that it adds to the thrill and satisfaction for couples, as long as both parties are in agreement to its place within the relationship.

Porn for Women

Does there need to be special or different material designed and filmed especially for women? Yes and no. While the female sexual experience is very different for women, many women admit to being just as sexually excited as the average man, using much the same material. While there is a definite market for female-oriented porn, it is not an absolute necessity. Some women are more comfortable viewing or buying porn that is advertised especially for women, feeling that it somehow circumnavigates being "real" porn. This is merely a comment on the fact that pornographic material is still viewed as seedy, illegal or unseemly in many circles. Porn channels are, however, not illegal for people over the age of 18 and many people are starting to realize and understand that logging into a porn website, purchasing adult material and watching porn is not an illegal act.

Can You Become Addicted?

Many people stay away from pornography, despite the fact that they may have enjoyed it for fear of becoming addicted. While porn addiction is considered a serious issue with real impacts and the need for professional intervention, the average person who chooses to watch porn to add thrills to their love life, need not fear that it will evolve into this form of addiction. People who develop a serious and life-altering addiction to pornographic material have other deeper issues and insecurities at work and this addiction operates similarly to the way it would with drugs and alcohol addiction, without the chemical addiction of these substances. Instead these individuals may become addicted to the sexual and emotional high they obtain after looking at and engaging in porn-fueled acts. While any of us will admit that pornographic images are powerful, even those who enjoy their use, would not see themselves as being unable to live without them for a month or feel the need to continually seek out new and more explicit material, to the detriment of their finances or marriage. In general addictive personalities, have ongoing issues with this type of behavior and watching porn is not the cause. The vast majority of couples can keep their urges well within normal limits.

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