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Could a Threesome Work for Your Relationship?

Could it be that more women, in a relationship, would admit to craving a menage-a-trois if it were more socially acceptable to bare all about the bedroom, or is this a no-man's land for most women? Do all bisexual people want a threesome and does having one mean you're bisexual? Many people are afraid to talk to their significant others about this, because someone may view a threesome as a fling and even the thought about this as an act of infidelity, but there is nothing bad about this. Take your time to read through this article to learn more. Even if you are not in a relationship right now, you may be interested in finding a swinger couple for a little threesome adventure.

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What Statistics Say

On the vast number of surveys, one of them on some , conducted with men, they admitted to harboring fantasies of a threesome with their current intimate partners. Most men surveyed did not necessarily want a threesome with women unknown to them, although most would consider an unknown partner if their significant other was in the mix.

According to a well-known survey conducted by the Kinsey Institute, the majority of women fantasize about being dominated, but in recent years more women may have become titillated by the idea of three-in-a-bed, usually involving another woman rather than a member of their opposite gender, but sometimes with another man. So have threesomes become less taboo?

Studies show that if a sexual activity is viewed with distaste or seen as on the fringe or normal sexuality, most people won't admit to liking it if questioned. Our sexuality is still a very private matter for most of us and most are very aware of sexual reputations becoming common knowledge among our peers. Many people are, understandably, keen to avoid feeding the rumor mill.

In modern times however, our endless search for new and exciting pursuits, including in the bedroom, has seen women becoming more open about their own physical needs. Social and other media aid women and men in becoming s little more relaxed when discussing sexual pursuits and interests, which were once regarded as the ultimate taboo.

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Does Craving a Threesome Make You Bisexual?

No, not necessarily but sexual preferences may be a bit more flexible for you. Outside of a threesome you may have no interest in being with a member of the same gender. For many, the excitement of a threesome lies in the presence of a partner with whom they share a close, loving relationship. The third party is often invited into this close bond, in an effort to improve the sexual lives of the couple, as a gift to one member of the couple or as a shared mutual experience that raises the sexual excitement for the couple.

Some couples may choose to invite a third person into their sexual coupling by using a professional escort. In this case, it is purely a business transaction, with no strings attached. Other couples use internet chat rooms, websites like Craigslist and others look for interested people or even interested couples, where the fourth person likes to watch. Still others opt for the far more risky choice of inviting a close friend into the mix. Couples warn, however, that this is by far the most complex choice and can (and often does), lead to broken friendships, disagreements, emotional trauma and sometimes, divorce or a break-up.

Many couples firmly recommend keeping it anonymous, by not involving friends, ex lovers, siblings or other people with whom you share a close relationship. "Keep it clinical", says Zee, a young, professional woman who works for a large retailer. "The last thing you need is for jealously to arise, or for one of you to become emotionally involved with the other person".

In sex for hire circles there are more than enough willing parties available for the fulfillment of your threesome fantasies and the consensus seems to be, that if everybody involved remains detached emotionally, that this can be a deeply gratifying way to raise sexual satisfaction in your relationship.

Do Bisexual People Prefer Threesomes?

Not necessarily. If you're in a same sex relationship or in a relationship with a self-confessed bisexual person don't automatically assume that they are open to the ideal of a threesome. Like any other couple, you will need to tread carefully to determine whether your partner is excited by the idea, views it as an absolute no-no or may be open with some negotiated clauses. Never get involved with somebody who is bisexual, pansexual or transgender because you assume they will be open to a threesome.

But is it Good for You?

Couples who rate their threesome experiences positively, are, in the vast majority, ones who have carefully considered its possible impacts on their relationship. have negotiated the rules of the encounters and kept close friends out of the mix. Hiring a professional for single encounters has worked well for couples who wanted to experience a threesome with their partners. Couples rated professional services as top of the list when it came to arranging sexual encounters. "Hiring a professional escort is smart", says Debbie, a forty-something artist. "They don't get personal, maintain a professional attitude and are very conscious of safe sexual practices".

Among couples whose threesome experiences are seen as a dismal failure, are those who indulged after becoming intoxicated by drugs and alcohol, those who had threesomes with best or close friends and those who thought they were in love with the third party before or after the encounters. Also on the list of failed encounters are those who have had threesomes as a dare or to please their partners.

It seems certain that threesomes work, when all parties involved agree on the boundaries of the encounter or encounters, when the agreement is kept unemotional and when the moment is not clouded by drugs, alcohol or coercion. Whether a couple wants to experience a threesome together matters the most, and the best outcomes follow from couples who view it as a primarily sexually-charged experience. Becoming emotionally involved in a situation where one partner is unwilling, jealousy crops up or regret follows inebriation is a recipe for a disastrous memory that you may soon want to forget.

But for those couples who long to experience a threesome as a way to enhance their sexual lives and an amazing way to fuel the fires of their own coupling, a threesome can be a wonderful journey towards the ultimate fulfillment of a fantasy. One thing seems certain and that is the comfort of all three persons involved, so before you take the plunge negotiate the terms. Decide where and when it will happen, the gender and identity of the third party and the rules for the encounter behind closed doors. Most important is which partner will engage in actual intercourse with the other or whether that will happen at all. How this is handled can make or break the encounter so make sure everybody is clear on this and you'll have a much greater chance of success.

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