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7 Tips for Swinging as a Single Man

Getting an invite to a swingers party as a single man is not always easy. Many events have strict ‘couples only’ rules, which can be very frustrating if you’re currently between partners. So if you’re lucky enough to be invited to a party, it’s important to adhere to some etiquette guidelines.

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Swinging as a single man could be a great experience!

Attending a swinging party as a single will add a very different dimension to your experience. Follow these tips, and you should be able to have the time of your life without offending anyone. If you play your cards right, you could be invited to the next big event!

1. Research the scene

There are many unwritten rules about attending swinging events, so it’s important to know as many of them as possible. Take the time to speak with other swingers, especially single swingers.

This will help you to plan what you wear, what you’re going to say and how you act during the event. There might be rules specific to the event too, so make sure you know them before turning up at the door.

2. Be yourself

You won’t need any cliche chat-up lines at a swingers party. You won’t need to go overboard when trying to impress potential sex partners either. All you need to do is be honest, genuine and humble.

Be yourself, and you won’t have too much trouble finding another swinger who is prepared to give you the night of your life. Who knows… you might find more than one swinger to bed down with during the same event!

3. Recognise couples as couples

The chances are that most people you meet at a swinging party will be part of a couple. The worst thing you can do is simply address the member of that couple who turns you on. These parties don’t work like that, and acting in this way could get you blacklisted from future events.

Some couples will enjoy sexual encounters together, and some will go their separate ways to enjoy sex. But when you first meet a couple, address them both, and let things take their natural course.

4. Always ask permission

Every encounter at a swingers party should start with a respectful conversation. As a single man, you should definitely not be simply grabbing people and trying to pull them into bedrooms for sex. This can be very intimidating for women, and will get your blacklisted from future events eventually. You should always wait for explicit consent before touching another swinger or talking provocatively.

5. Take care with your appearance

As a single man, you may find it harder than most to make an impression at a swingers event. This is why you need to do everything in your power to make a positive first impression. Take some time to select an appropriate outfit, and make sure your hygiene, hair and overall appearance is appealing.

There may be a specific dress code, in which case you will need to adhere to it fully. Being well groomed is always important for a swinger, but it is vital when you’re swinging as a single man.

6. Be honest

Don’t tell everyone you’re single if you’re not. This will be regarded as a little creepy and weird if the truth comes out — which it probably will. This isn’t a chance for you to cheat on your partner. In fact, experienced swingers can often identify someone who is cheating or lying about their intentions very easily.

It’s also important to be honest with yourself about your motives. If you’re looking for company and intimacy as a single man, you probably need to look for a partner, rather than casual sex with a stranger.

7. Don’t take anything personally

Swingers will often have a vivid picture in their mind about the type of person they want to have casual sex with. This will include physical and personality traits. It is not unusual for experienced swingers to attend a party without having sex, so don’t think people will start getting desperate towards the end of the event.

You will probably be told ‘no’ or be let down gently during swinging parties, so be prepared for rejection — and never take things to heart.

Swinging is a great way to satisfy your temporary sexual urges with like-minded people in a safe and respectful environment. But if you’re a single man on the scene, following the rules is absolutely essential. These tips should ensure your casual sexual encounters are satisfying and lots of fun.

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