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How to Improve the Intensity of Your Orgasms

It’s the culmination of sex, and one of the reasons why we crave it so much — the orgasm. But for many people, it doesn’t deliver the kind of climactic feeling that it should.

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Understand orgasms so you can make them stronger.

Whether you’re having sex with a fuck buddy or enjoying a love-making session with a long-term partner, it’s important to understand why some orgasms are more intense than others.

When you truly understand orgasms, you can begin to make them stronger.

While there are some physiological reasons for poor or non-existent orgasms, many people have the power to improve them without medical intervention. For some people, just a few changes to their sex life can do the trick.

Believe it or not, you have the power to improve your own orgasms — and those of your partners. If you’re looking for more intense climaxes, there are a few things you can try today.

Refill the Tank

If you’re climaxing every day, there’s a chance that each of your orgasms isn’t as intense as it could be. You need to make your body crave an orgasm, and the best way to do that is starve it.

So, once a week, try to go two or three days without reaching orgasm. This means refraining from both sex and masturbation. A lot of men in particular report far stronger orgasms if they’ve gone a couple of days without one.


Pick two days of the week of sexual abstinence that fit in with your lifestyle. For example, if you work particularly long hours at the beginning of the week, this is the perfect time to give your libido a break.

WOMEN — Get by with a Little Help from Your Vibrating Friend

It is believed that the majority of women don’t achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex alone. A clitoral climax often requires some very targeted stimulation. This is why it’s always a good idea to ensure the lady orgasms before the man.

In most cases, a helping hand will be required. This could be in the form of some finger-led stimulation or the use of the tongue. It’s also worth remembering that most vibrators are now designed to target the clitoris specifically.

If you’re a woman in need of better orgasms, shop around for vibrators. Better still, get your partner to do the honours for you.

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Use a vibrator for some intense foreplay — culminating in a clitoral orgasm. Throw in some dirty chat to fire things up a little more.

Use Plenty of Lube

Lube has the power to heighten levels of arousal and sensitivity — in both men and women. It not only feels great, it facilitates longer sex sessions and a wider repertoire of positions.

Thanks to this combination of variety and longevity, orgasms are often far more powerful. If you want to have some fun with lube, ask your partner to apply it, and return the favour.

Take Your Time

Too many people deprive themselves of sex for too long. Whether they’re married or enjoying some casual sex, they tend to get carried away when the moment finally arrives. As a result, the orgasm (particularly in men) can be quick and relatively superficial.

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The best way you can improve the quality of your orgasms (whether you’re a man or a woman) is to take your time.

Spend more time on the build-up to sex, using touch, dirty talk and suggestion. And when the time comes, make sure that the foreplay is as intense as it is long.

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Heighten your sexual arousal and bring the power!

Remove a Sense — but Never Touch

The senses play a huge part in a human’s sexual experience. Somewhat perversely, removing certain senses at the right time can actually heighten sexual arousal, and make orgasms even more powerful.

If you want to experiment, try blindfolding one another while you both perform various sexual acts on one another. Alternatively, try using noise-cancelling headphones to drown out all sound in the room.

One thing you don’t want to remove, however, is touch. In terms of sex, this is the single most powerful sense. And when you remove one of the other senses, it becomes even more powerful than before.

Cuddle More

One of the reasons for unsatisfying orgasms relates to touch. Too many people jump straight into bed and go for it immediately. While this can be a great way to mix things up, it shouldn’t be the only way you and your partner have sex.

What you’re looking for here is the oxytocin hormone — or the love hormone, as some people call it. This naturally occurring substance is secreted by the body when it comes into contact with another person.

So, the more you cuddle, the more of the hormone you create. And because this hormone triggers the production of testosterone (in both men and women), sexual arousal is heightened.

Understand the Female Body

This final tip is for people who are concerned that the woman in their life isn’t enjoying enough quality orgasms. Once you understand how things work, you should be able to maximise stimulation.

For example, a woman’s libido is at its highest during ovulation. Her sexual sensitivity is usually higher at this stage in her cycle, which means she’s more likely to respond to direct stimulation.

By going the extra mile at this time of the month, you can give the lady in your life the strongest and most satisfying orgasms she’ll ever have.

It’s also worth understanding just how important the clitoris is to female orgasms. A lot of women have vaginal orgasms during sex, which aren’t always as satisfying. By concentrating on the clitoris, however, you can give your partner the most intense orgasms possible.


The clitoris is the small nub of skin between the lips of the upper vagina. If you can't find it, don't be afraid to ask your partner to point you in the right direction.

Stronger orgasms with your sexual partners are achievable, but you might have to work at things.

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Perhaps you need very targeted stimulation.

But if you’re both determined to put in the effort, the rewards could make your relationship stronger than ever.

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