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What is the deal with women and feminine guys?

The debate has raged for decades. If women crave a man's man, then why do feminine men get so many women?

Attractive feminine man wearing a beanie
Feminine features in a man can create strong attraction

If you question the latter claim, just think of the likes of Mick Jagger, Leonardo DiCaprio (especially during his twenties) and David Bowie to name but a few.

Each of these men displayed overtly feminine facial features and, in the case of Mick Jagger and David Bowie, played with a feminine style of dress and movement. Yet all men achieved exceptional success with women in their heyday. And this phenomenon seems to extend beyond the realm of celebrity culture all the way down to women's choice of long-term partner and who they choose to have a fling with.

So what exactly is going on when it comes to feminine men and what can you do the maximise your chances of procreational success if you are a male with a feminine flair. Today we are going to have a look at this questions in some detail.

Here comes the sciency bit: Concentrate!

The dating landscape, according to evolutionary biology, has long been held to be one where the guy with the biggest chin, widest pecs and most aggressive personality should get all the ladies. While many men that fit this bill do indeed do well with women, the traditional view of what attracts women is gradually being overturned thanks to new research.

A 2011 study by New York University and Princeton University indicates that preferences when it comes to feminine features and behaviours in men among women is a complex issue and depends a great deal on the circumstance a woman finds herself in.

One theory suggests that the more affluent and independent women get, the more their preference for effeminate men increases.

For all you feminine guys out there

So: enough with the science. What does all of this mean in practical term if you are a man with feminine characteristics looking to make an impact on the dating scene? Well, the best strategy is to embrace that side of yourself and let it work to your advantage. If you enjoy a bit of personal grooming and know the fundamentals of good personal skincare and haircare, more power to you! Make the most of your features and highlight the parts of your face that will get you noticed.

Feminine blond guy using a hairdryer
Don't be afraid to groom yourself

If you have an expressive emotionality, go with it. While it is generally rare for straight men to be drawn to masculine energy, it is far more common for women to have at least a subliminal attractive to the feminine. While we may barely notice when a man has taken extra steps to make himself look better, women continually compliment each other and appreciate great beauty from another woman. Accessing a little of this hidden attraction can only serve to increase your chances on one night stands or something more serious

Keep the balance

Now: While it is certainly the case that, on average, women tend to exhibit more of certain characteristics and traits while men tend to exhibit more of others, there is a growing popularity among dating gurus and thinkers such as Tony Robbins to consider the masculine and feminine as different kinds of energies that can exist in different proportions within people irrespective of their gender. However, behind this conception is the idea that it is the right blend of both that lends itself to the polarity that creates sexual tension and real-world attraction.

This is why it is worth noting that, if you are a man with feminine features and traits, you don't have to go overboard.

Your feminine characteristics look their best when contrasted against your inherent masculinity, so don't be afraid to explore both sides of your nature. When you do this, you'll find yourself attracting women effortlessly and having wilder, more connected sex with a wider variety of fuck friends.

What's in it for you if you're a manly man?

If you are a very masculine man you may already be doing fine with the ladies in your own way. However, if you are looking to boost your results, entertaining and cultivating a certain amount of feminine energy can actually have a positive effect. As men with testosterone, we are frequently all about the chase. However: engaging with your feminine side can help you take the edge off your aggression and encourage women to chase you!

Handsome man with feminine traits wearing a scarf
Embrace the masculine and the feminine

This might seem paradoxical but one of the hidden facts of dating is that sometimes, women like to do the chasing. As a rule, women rarely get to experience what its like to chase a guy. The novelty value of this new adventure can create attraction in women in a whole new way, allowing you to stand out from the rest of the pack and cement your status as something special in her mind.

Find the partner that is warm for your blend of the ying and yang

Whichever side of the fence you fall on in terms of masculine and feminine characteristics, the lesson that seems to be emerging from the current research is that different women are attracted to different things. Our advice is to understand that there are women out there looking for your particular blend of masculine and feminine; Your job is to track down the ones who are. And have a little fun in the process too!

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